Anyone has been through a divorce or is going through one would agree that it is the most stressful event of life. Your level of happiness literally drops because of the divorce and it takes a lot of work to rebound. That’s why lots of people going through a divorce become the victim of depression. If you are here, you probably need help too.
Divorce is a long procedure. Paying the attorney’s fee, coming with terms that both of you agree with and then dealing with divorce modification if necessary, all make it long and painful. It’s easy to end the relationship but filling for a divorce and actually getting divorced seems to be an endless process.
If this legal process has made you depressed, you have come to the right for getting help. Trust me, if you don’t pick yourself up right now, it is going to deeply impact not just your mental health but physical health too. Here are some ways you can fight the pain and deal with your depression:
- Learn to let go
Holding onto regrets and bitterness will only keep your life from moving forward. Thinking about the past over and over again is not going to change anything. To move forward in life, it is important to acknowledge your feelings and learn from your past experiences to prepare yourself for life ahead. Yes, there is life after divorce. Learn to let go of what happened and get ready to embrace the future.
- Change Your Routine
You need to change your routine for a fresh start. Maybe get a part-time job. This job might force you to smile, meet new people, and be part of a fresh environment. It will help you get out of your head for the day, and give you hope to start a new life. Just because your marriage has ended, it does not mean your life is over too.
- Take up a new hobby
Take up a new hobby. If you have always wanted to learn how to paint, join a painting class and give it a go. If you want to stay fit and cure your loneliness, think about joining a yoga class. Just fill your day with activities that will keep your mind occupied and your life full.
- Clean Out the house
A productive way to grieve the end of a relationship is to clean out the drawers, closets, and other corners of your house that may still contain your spouse’s possessions, and replace them with new stuff. If you can’t do it all at once, that is ok. Just get rid of everything that reminds you of your past relationship. You don’t want to go anywhere near old memories that only bring pain.
- Make a Self-Esteem File
You are definitely going to need a self-esteem file, because you will blame yourself for a failed marriage. You need to pick yourself up. It can be hard to convince yourself that you deserve goodness in life too. For that, we always have good friends to remind us of who we are. Self-pitting is exactly where depression starts and you need to stay away from it to successfully come out of the pain.
Meditation helps us in all areas of our life, but especially when we are healing and feeling the effects of stress. It doesn’t matter if it’s meditation done at church or at home. The importance of blocking out quiet time, to sit still, focusing on calming our breath and be present heals the body as well as the mind.
- Start writing a journal
If you can’t express your thoughts, then start writing a journal. It is surprising how many people carry the baggage of an old relationship into a new one. This is done many times because the blame was projected onto a partner instead of looking at their own part in the divorce. If you journal, you will see where your limited thinking may have contributed to the end of the marriage. This will help you feel more confident and strong. Plus, it is a great way of letting your feelings out.
- Start seeing friends and family more often
The more alone you are, the more depressed you are going to be. You will simply start wandering in the past. To avoid that, start making plans to see your family and friends more frequently. These are the people who believe in you and want only what is best for you. Their support can help you feel stronger.
- Write a letter to your Ex
Sometimes, this is necessary. Pour down all your feelings in words. Write whatever you want to say, it can be good and it can be bad since you are not going to send this letter to your Ex. It is just another way of channeling your feelings.
Along with following these useful tips, you must also see a therapist. A professional can relieve you better.